When men become solutions…

  • Excerpt: Men may understand women’s rights violations differently from women, because they are not directly affected by it or experience it differently from their standpoint. They cannot always be expected to understand them from the same lens. It is also important to note that the frequency and normality of some of these violations may have desensitized them from understanding their gravity and costs to the society. Thus, it is crucial that the experiences of women are conveyed to them in ways that help them understand what is at stake. This may involve the use of analogies and examples that are outside issues of gender, especially where there are strict demarcations of men’s and women’s roles or a sense of acquiescence or surrender that religion or culture accepts or expects this. Analogies or examples that they can appreciate or have been through themselves may also be an entry point into discussions.

One method of doing this is using other examples of inequality. For instance a participant of the South African Men’s Forum was able to grasp the concept of gender inequality by comparing it to inequalities that existed during the racial apartheid in the region. 

Similarly a trainer of Islamic law to the Ministry of Justice in Afghanistan used the concept of slavery (now abolished in most parts of the Muslim world) to highlight its similarities with the complete subservience of a wife in exchange of dowry, as a way of deconstructing to the participants, the repugnant aspects of unequal relationships that Islam sought to gradually abolish through its revelations on the treatment of slaves now present in some marital relations.

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Empowering men as partners in women’s rights activists

I intend to begin this interpretive paper by exploring notions and definitions of key terms that arise in our discussions of men’s and women’s role in war and peace. I intend that this exploration will trigger readers to access more fluid definitions and notions that a) exposes the weaknesses of binary categories such as ‘men/women’, ‘powerful/subordinate’ and ‘oppressor/oppressed’ in the investigation of men and women’s daily-realities; and b) to use these fluid understandings (of the multiple roles that women and men play) to inform better grassroots programs, strategies and program content for new and existing training, campaigning and education activities in conflict and post-conflict situations.

This interpretive paper is designed as a set of reflective questions and a list of accompanying techniques of engagement with men, which I hope will serve as a useful framework for activists and organizations embarking to design programs to empower men in efforts concerning women’s (and men’s) rights.

Gender-based programs are often built upon a certain set of premises or assumptions that in theory frames the design and implementation of all activities.

The following are some examples of a premise:

  • The work of this organization is premised upon substantive equality between men and women as laid down in the Convention on the Elimination of Discrimination Against Women.
  • The work of this organization is premised upon the belief that women’s economic independence through micro-credit lending is key to advancing their agency in decision-making activities in their household.
  • The work of this organization is premised upon the importance of raising the awareness of women’s rights amongst men and young boys and increasing men’s involvement in women’s rights efforts.

Some features of organizational or program premises:

  • They may exist on a conscious or sub-conscious level.
  • They may be expressly written out on organizational documents  or communicated orally between staff.
  • They can act as guiding posts or benchmarks for the implementation of a project.
  • They may reflect an organizational culture.
  • They may not always be communicated to and agreed upon by all the staff.

Establishing the premises for any program is important because they lay down the foundations for the design of new programs; they act as success indicators; they frame discussions that take place during staff meetings; they encourage certain types of conduct amongst staff; and they create an organizational culture. Communicating these premises and reiterating them during staff meetings and other activities involving staff engagement will be important for the premises to effect meaningful outcomes.

Many gender programs are starting to realize the importance of engaging men as partners in women’s rights efforts. Often men are perceived as problems and not targeted as solutions to women’s challenges. Thus advocacy methods sometimes unconsciously reproduce negative discourses (both written and spoken) of men’s adversarial disposition towards women. This narrow frame of reference may deter many men from contributing positively to women’s rights efforts. Laying down and communicating a premise that posits men’s positive involvement can invite staff to reconsider existing advocacy strategies and programs, and tease out existing organizational philosophies, approach and language, that may evoke unnecessary negative representations of men or male/female relationships.

Men’s involvement, in certain contexts, is extremely essential due to their preponderant exercise of decision-making in micro and macro activities effecting women such as family planning, education of female children, attention to treatment of diseases, access to maternal healthcare during pregnancy and the control of economic assets. At the macro level, this extends to nearly every effort in law and policy-making, programming and budget allocation, at all levels of government; their exercise of political power, access to Ministries, ability to tap into larger network of resources and authority over law and policies affect the allocation and equitable distribution of resources needed for this work.

There are a variety of innovative ways and strategies that women can use to increase men’s involvement in the work for gender equality.

Seeing beyond the dichotomy

The following set of reflective questions is designed to encourage readers to contemplate more fluid definitions and accounts of women’s rights and men’s role in its advancement. The discussion of these questions amongst staff members may initiate new ideas in the mapping, design, implementation and evaluation of activities pertaining to men’s role either as perpetrators in women’s causes or partners in them. This can potentially alter the approaches of women’s rights investigation and data collection, and the presentation of data and evidence collected to establish the cause and effect of women’s rights violations. Perhaps more importantly, the ideas generated may also inform the design of training, education and advocacy programs, that strategically and meaningfully includes men in the delivery of these activities, or engage them as important participants in them.  Continue reading

16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence

“Among women aged between 15 and 44, acts of violence cause more death and disability than cancer, malaria, traffic accidents and war combined.”

Femin Ijtihad (FI) and Friends of FI are participating in 16 Days of Activism against gender-based violence by conducting a few activities.

We hope you can contribute to one of them – :)

1. We are assembling a tapestry of handwritten messages on ending violence against women.

2. How you can help?

  • Handwrite a message or note on a paper suggesting an end to violence against women.
  • The note can be as short as “No to Violence Against Women’ or “Stop Violence Against Women’.
  • We will put this on our blog and partner UN page for the “Say No to Violence Campaign”.
  • This will run along other advocacy campaigns we are partnering with other organizations this December!
  • Forward this message to your friends and families.
  • This is ONE of 16 steps we can take to raise awareness. Make this part of your own civic awareness!

Some links and reads of interest:
16 Days of Activism – SAY NO TO VIOLENCE
Know the real facts and figures of the primary cause of women’s death
Read FI Analysis on Stoning for adultery in Afghanistan
Support Afghan Women’s Demands at Bonn by signing this petition
Outcome of the Free Gulnaz petition – Karzai intervened
Read FI Analysis on how we can work with male abusers

‘Awrah and Fitnah: Women’s Modesty and Social Ills.

Fadl, one of the world’s leading authorities on Islam and Islamic law writes about the conflation between ‘awrah (modesty) and fitnah (social ills). This is all contained within a book of 360 pages, footnoted and well-referenced. “Speaking in God’s Name: Islamic Law, Authority and Women” One World Publications 2006.

He makes these claims:

1. The Quran does not use the word fitnah to refer to sexual arousal/seduction. It refers, instead, to non-sexual temptations such as material consumption (money) and a ripple of other social ills.

2. Early Islamic reports did not link the issue of the hijab to the problem of fitnah. The technical issue of the proper form of hijab is not directly related to the possibilities of fitnah, but to social status and physical safety. Interestingly, what becomes known in modern discourses as the hijab is discussed in classical juristic sources in the chapter on prayer.

3. Fadl invites us to ASK whether the problem of fitnah (fitnah determination) is an EMPIRICAL or DOCTRINAL issue. Meaning: is detriment of women’s immodesty to social ills determined by doctrine (Quran, Sunnah), or is it empirical, i.e. determined by people’s observation/experiment, and then read into the doctrine.

Fadl does not debate out the causal relation of whether ‘awrah leads to fitnah, in determining the extent to which women’s modesty should be regulated. He disregards this causal relationship on the basis of one over-arching principle, that is a core Shariah value.

There is a serious conceptual and moral difficulty with the idea of fitnah. The principle that no one can be called to answer for the sins of another is a core Shariah value. In Quranic discourses, one person or a set of people cannot be made to suffer because of the indicretions, sins, or faults of others – each individual is responsible and accountable only for his or her own behaviour. (Quran 6;164, 17;15, 35;18, 39;7, 53;58, 24;11)

In fact when addressing the issues of modesty, the Quran is quite careful to place the blame on those it labels the hypocrites, who harass or molest the innocent. (Quran 33;58-60). Reportedly these verses were revealed in response to several incidents in which the hypocrites of Medina harassed and molested Muslim women. (Tafsir al-Tabari, Kathir, al-Qurtubi al Jami, al Razi al-tafsir al Kabir)

The jurisprudence on women’s modesty thus runs the risk of violating (going against) the Quranic principle of self-responsibility/self-accountability for one’s own discretions, sins or faults.

He continues: Assuming that the reason we are confronted with a fitnah situation is because of men with an overactive libido (uncontrolled sexual drive) or who are impious (not religious) or ill-mannered (rude). Demanding that women should suffer exclusion or limitations would violate the principle that the innocent should not pay for the indiscretions of the culpable (the one to be blamed). From that perspective the whole logic between fitnah as seduction becomes quite suspect. Whether a person covers his or her awrah or not, he or she should not be made to suffer from the indiscretions (lacking in good judgement) or impiety (lack of respect for God) of others.

The laws and imperatives of modesty ought to be set by God and not by immoral individuals who are violating the law of God.

Fitnah determinations rely on the dubious logic that women should pay the price for the impious failures of men. Therefore, according to this logic, women’s education, mobility, safety, and even religious liberty should be restricted in order to avoid fitnah.

Under the guise of fitnah some women have been banned from serving in the military, working, driving, appearing in public life. Fadl asserts that this has resulted from the abusive treatment of the evidence (Sunnah), and an extreme lack of willingness to implement critical insight into evidence that could have dire consequences in perpetuating intolerable injustices against women.

The first point of inquiry : do fitnah determinations make an empirical or normative claim? Are these traditions saying that as an empirical matter, women will always have this affect on men? If the answer is yes, then the question is, what if the empirical reality contradicts the claim of the tradition (Sunnah)? In the science of hadith, any tradition that contravenes (goes against) human experience cannot be accepted as valid. So for instance, if a tradition says that the people of Yemen walk on 3 legs, since the tradition is empirically incorrect, it cannot be relied upon in legal determinations.

The Chapter is pretty long so I will put up his arguments in bullet points:

  • There are many Hadith that objectifies women’s bodies as site of immodesty.
  • Fadl’s claim is that we are unable to ascertain that the Prophet played the primary role in the authorial enterprise that generated these traditions. Since we are unable to ascertain this, considering the impact of these traditions, (and the higher values of social justice espoused in the Quran – see above), there is no possible justification for taking the tradition at their word.
  • Difficult to reconcile the traditions of fitnah and women’s exclusion with the numerous reports about the active participation of women in public life during the life of the Prophet and after his death as well.
  • Reports documenting incidents of women’s seclusion are few in comparison with those documenting the opposite.
  • Reports of women’s public participation includes:

a) Prophet racing his wife in public

b) Aisha and other women watching sports in Medina

c) One of the widely reported incidents is one in which a group of women were meeting with the Prophet. Apparently their voices had become quite loud; when Umar entered upon the rowdy group, the Prophet laughed at how quickly everyone quieted down.

d) Women used to take Prophet by his hand, sit him down to discuss their problems.

e) The mosque of the Prophet was full of rows of women lining up for prayers. At times, men arriving late for prayer would pray behind women – men would be in the front rows followed by women, followed by rows of men who arrived late. Yet the prayers of the men who prayed behind the women were considered valid.

f) The Prophet wanted all women to join the community in Eid prayers and that he urged even menstruating women to listen to the sermon and join in the celebrations. Several reports stated that women attend iktikaf prayer with the Prophet in the mosque, and did so during menstruation.

  • The overwhelming majority of the traditions of the fitnah genre do not purport to describe a historical practice. Rather they present declarations, aspirations, claims or normative prescriptions. Fadl introduces that many men (transmitters of the Hadith) were fueled by the laxity (not strict) of the Prophet’s dealings with women. Afraid that their women might argue against them (as many did), attributions to their womanhood and sexuality were made. If these traditions are to be believed, then there was an enormous disparity between the these declarations, and the actual historical practice of the Prophet in Medina.
  • Umar for instance shares his worries to the Prophet. “One day I became mad with my wife and she started arguing with me. When I chided her for talking back, she said “Why do you hink I cannot argue with you! By God, the wives of the Prophet argue with him and one even abandoned him from morning until night.” I told her, “Whoever does this is truly shameless!” How do they know that God might not become angered because of the hurt caused to the Prophet, and then they would be truly ruined! In response to ‘Umar’s reports, the Prophet smiled!
  • Some claim that all this took place before the imposition of the hijab. Fadl raises this: The hijab was introduced to the Prophet’s wives in the very last years before his death. Taking that the hijab extends to all other women and cancels out all other hadith on women’s active and public participation with men, then we end up with a peculiar result that most of the Islamic historical experiences becomes an utter nullity (becomes erased), as far as gender relations are concerned.

Launch of F.I.’s New Case Law Project

Waking up Saturday morning to a large cup of tea is wonderful. I have armed myself with new wrist guards, went to the doctor and hand therapist. There really isn’t a quick cure, but I am committed to improving the condition of my wrists and living healthily and happily.

F.I. Tidbits

Our case law project has just launched. I stayed up to 1am to e-meet the team of 7 people, some students, some former journalists and passionate in their field. It is such an important project and I am so glad to have found and met Anna Dugoni (Our Project Coordinator) to have really made such an intensive task so easy on me!

About the Project

The need to make decisions available to the public domain, as scholars/activists have acknowledged a lack of women’s awareness on the legal developments that affect their lives and on legal tools that they can use to argue their cases. Thus, the aim is to provide a free compendium of Muslim family and criminal case law in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh and promote a greater awareness of the law amongst women, legal activists and lawyers in these and other communities.

‘The efforts at legal reform in the field of family law (DMMA, MFLO) are useful fragments of hope for women’.

Likewise, Indian Muslim law as argued by Subramanian (2008:633) ‘changed over the last generation to give permanent alimony, to restrict men’s right to unilaterally repudiate their wives and to give earlier wives the right to get a divorce if their husbands practice polygamy’he thrust must now be on saving these laws and on implementation of whatever little reprieve they offer’ (Ali, 1998a: 136).

How can judgements impact on women’s lives, when women themselves, and the communities they live in, believe that they have been legally divorced? Much more needs to be done to move towards a gender-just Muslim matrimonial law’ ( Saumya Uma, 2003).

    to ‘unravel women’s rights by interpreting the basic texts of islam from a gender-equal perspective’ (ali, 2000: 5). Thus we aim to show how judges have interpreted the scriptures and whether ijtihad has been resorted to, to provide new interpretations.

I am glad I was able to take some time in the last few days to include new information onto our F.I. website. Visit www.feminijtihad.com

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